I have Internet! And there will be much rejoicing.
I am loving Santa Barbara and settling in to my new job and new apartment and new city with amazing ease. More on that later.
I felt kind of bad celebrating my excitement over the last week and a half, especially with all the grief and outrage over police brutality was erupting across social media. I wanted to share my happiness, without appearing completely tone deaf. I was alone in a new city halfway across the country from everyone I love, and I wanted to connect with people, but it felt…tacky.
I also have been struggling with balancing self care with my longing to do something. A friend posted this perspective from the Talmud, and it resonated with me.
Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world’s grief. Do justly, now. Love mercy, now. Walk humbly, now. You are not obligated to complete the work but neither are you free to abandon it.
I left all my stationary at home, so I picked up these perfect little notecards on sale at Papyrus in downtown Santa Barbara to send love notes of cheer to counteract all the sadness in the world and hopefully brighten people’s days.
Because that’s the best way I can do the work today. I’ll keep working on other ways to promote tolerance, justice, mercy, and love.
Links of Note
By watching documentaries like these and learning the inner workings of the plus size fashion industry — from blogging to running brands; from fashion week to modeling — we can further understand the positives and negatives of being a plus size consumer in contemporary culture. These films not only inspire hope, but they inspire change, too.
As anyone who shopped at Delia*s and once owned a teeny tiny backpack knows, Cher and Dionne were not necessarily the most literary of all the students at Bronson Alcott High. However, 1995 blockbuster hit Clueless is surprisingly chock full o’ book references.
Whether women are being encouraged to rid our homes of useless belongings, or urged to shop for new ones, the result is the same: Society continues to associate women with the home and the material, men with the outside and experiences. While the enjoyment of domestic life, of stuff, isn’t inherently negative, it is dismissed precisely because of its associations with the feminine. An orientation towards stuff over experiences, moreover, gets cast either as recklessly materialist or, as Tony perceives it, an impediment to enjoying life. The only constant is that what women prefer, or are imagined to prefer, is thought inferior.
- When I had bright pink hair, I struggled to wear the more neutral and natural colors in my wardrobe for fear of clashing, but Kaylah from The Dainty Squid is totally rocking navy and brown with her bright green hair. So obviously it can be done right!
- I’ve struggled to find the right kind of midi skirts or calf length dresses because I’m on the short side and they always seem to fall in this weird spot, but I there are some seriously cute options in this round up from Nicole at writes like a girl.
- All the cat heart eye emojis for this caticorn glitter enamel pin! I need to either start my building up a collection or just let this trend pass me by.
- This tutorial for a swimsuit cover up has me contemplating trying to learn to sew, since I have yet to find a cover up to wear to the beach that I like!
- I am totally making this Aperol spritz margarita crossover cocktail on my next boozy beach trip.
Hope your day is fun and relaxing!